I have been living in Japan for quite a time. In the beginning, I felt everything is fresh and everything interested me a lot. After a while, the feeling began to fade away and now I could clam down and to tell the comparative objective truth to everyone about it.

Actually long time ago, I was about to write something about Japan, but I did not find a good chance to deliver it. Now I want to do it.

If you are interested in Japan, the country, or living in japan. I want to shed some light on it and help you understand the country better.

Merit Etiquette

Anyone has ever been to Japan for travelling must know Japan is a country which is famous for its etiquette. Basically, they are very polite to everyone including the foreigners in the country.

When it is the first time you meet a person in japan, usually he/she will give you a huge bow. And the angle of the bow is quite exaggerated.

The custom of bowing in Japan is so prevailing in the country that even when they are on the phone they bow to a "nobody".

I used to laugh about the strange habits of them. But now I am like one of them bowing to "nobody" on the phone.

Demerit Restriction

If you have ever been to Japan, I think deep in your mind maybe you have noticed this restriction thing.

When everyone is so nice to you, you also have to become the "nice" guy, no matter who you are deep in your mind.

You have to be the guy never in others' way.

You have to be the guy always respect the others.

You have to be polite all the time.

And in the end the freshness and thrilling experience are all gone, what left is the sense of loss. You are not who you are.

That is actually a thing which bothers me sometimes living in the coutnr.

Summary

These are the things I have been thinking during my life in Japan. I would like to share more with you in the future.

在日本呆的时间长了，从最初的充满新鲜感到后来的厌倦以及最后的沉淀下来看清楚现实。

人的整个人生都需要经历一个过程才能渐渐地冷静下来客观的看见一些事实。

其实我很久以前就已经准备写一些关于日本的优点与缺点的文章。

但是一直没有着手真正开始去写。这次就像借此机会好好写一下我对日本这个国家的观点。

希望你们可以作为理解这个民族和国家的参考。每次我准备写关于一个相关主题的优点与缺点。

优点礼貌

来过日本旅游的人都会知道，日本是一个极其礼貌的民族。日本人对自己国人也是同样的礼貌，更别说对外国人了。

那个毕恭毕敬是每个第一次来旅游的人的崇拜对象也是可以理解的。但凡不是在大城市见到路人都道你好。

第一次见面那个鞠躬的次数和角度真的是很夸张。

鞠躬这个习惯太广泛了以至于日本人在打电话的时候也是自然而然的条件反射似的鞠躬。

当时我见到了也觉得很搞笑，怎么会这样。

现在变成日本上班族的我也被他们传染了，我成了那个打电话鞠躬的人。

缺点拘束

来过日本旅游的人可能也发现了这个缺点。

当他人都对你无限毕恭毕敬之时，你很难不以礼相待，以至于在乎很多细节。

通俗一点说就是“憋屈”。对于那些大大咧咧我行我素的人来说他们可以在开始生活的初期活的很自由，即使是在日本这样一个拘束的国度。

但是当你在日本生活的时间长了以后，你会发现慢慢的你也融入了这个文化，无形之中这样的礼貌文化，不给他人添麻烦的文化融入了你的血液。我就是一个鲜活的例子。

你不得不尊重他人，划清界限，增加与他人的距离。特别是当你在东京这样的大城市，人情味这种东西好像已经消失，

人们各顾各忙着自己的生活与他人的联系慢慢减少，拘束的生活中觉得没有了新鲜和刺激，有些一成不变的失落感。

总结

以上便是我对日本的一些感受，以后我还会每次更新。敬请关注。