Duke and Duchess of Urbino Galleria degli Uffizi photo by Tigrilla Gardenia

I remember saying my marriage vows knowing I would be divorced. The idea of a traditionally, static life does not resonate with me. And while my ex-husband is an amazing person, his need to tie his life to “home”—traveling only for vacation/escape—and willingness to put his dreams on hold until a later, unknown date is not for me. If I ever do it again, get married I mean, it would be for the connection to the person, not the lifestyle.

Not sure exactly how to describe what I mean, the best I can say is that the connection I have with another person has to be about the shared development of life missions and related dreams, which is not necessarily tied to a house-type life. If I need help around the house or companionship, I have a community of people. What I really need is a partner-in-crime on a much deeper level.

Each of us needs to be able to move freely to accomplish our intertwined, yet individual missions while fully living a connection that transcends the need for a constantly shared physicality. That connection flows in and out of various states of closeness based on something bigger than us. You could say that I have always been fascinated by the concept of a power-couple, where each has a specialty that when put together can accomplish more than the sum of their parts. Add that to individuals that feel free enough to work together, alone, or with others as needed, and you have the makings of my ideal partnership.

As the years go by, I realize that this partner-in-crime will be a primary partner, but not the only one. There are many paths to reach a mission, and in order to get there, you need to live each one without traditional constraints. If your partner-in-crime connection is real, you will always feel that person's presence. No matter where you are, there will be something that draws you together in ways that nourish your true essence, not the psychological fears created in the physical.

Does this person exists?

...musings over tea overlooking the tree-lined landscape...