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----- *Hello friends how are you all doing today I hope all is well and you all are having a nice and wonderful day, today I will be sharing with you all base on the topic* ***"the matter of not being able to trust a friend"*** ----- *Even the Bible says that we Christians should put our trust in God, but Bible didn't really draw an emphasis that we shouldn't trust our Brethren*. ----- *The issue of being suspicious of the people around us and even the people we stay in the same house with is getting out of hand, which of course prompt me to write this article* ----- ![1000078959.jpg](https://cdn.steemitimages.com/DQmWAgTSJo5iC4wAqtCQ84BjEhsAo2XPMYmVQB1DHwseZDu/1000078959.jpg) ^{Picture source}

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Meaning of trust

| | ------ | --------- *Trust can simply be defined as the process or an act of believing that someone is honest (being straight forward morally) and also sincere which he or she will not deliberately harm you in any way* >But in our society today we see husbands not being able to trust their wife's, and wife's not being able to trust their husbands, brothers suspecting brothers, sister's the same thing, friends this one is the worst. ----- _So now having hearing all of this the only question that is left in our mind is_ ***"Why"***. ------- |

Why???? (Couples)

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----- *Why so much suspicions? First let's start in the family as I mentioned earlier that husbands and wife's are having trouble trusting each other and the reasons for this behavior are some how tricky because there are much.* ---- *Couples find it difficult to trust each other as a result of a cheating experience it may have been with another person (ex partner) with they one there are now, maybe they managed to forgive each other and continue the relationship, despite the forgiveness that trust won't be as strong as it were when the started the relationship.* ----- _Also some couples find it difficult to trust each other as a result of some certain displayed behaviors,_ ----- ![1000078961.jpg](https://cdn.steemitimages.com/DQmXBiWa7edWwKfjbthpw4irGtwgzDit1p5U1f6y23TXUvR/1000078961.jpg) ^{Picture source}

----- ***Example*** * When a spouse tries to be too busy for intimate session with his or her lover * Claiming to be too busy with work and hanging out with friends more than your husband or wife * Receiving secret calls and messages and having something to always smile about which the husband or wife doesn't know about etc. ----- *All that and many more may be an INNOCENT ACT, but trust me this are some of the basic things that causes couples to be suspicious of each other.* ------- |

Why??? (Brothers/Sisters)

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----- *Raise your hands if you have ever seen a parent beating or trying to stop their children from going to their uncles/aunties house, talkless of even collecting them something to eat, well I have seen it mostly in our community.* ----- >^{***Now the question here is why? Why do people hate their brothers and sisters so much that they would warn their sons/daughters to stay away from them?***} ---- * For me I would say childhood separation, you know when infant separation especially when it last to the stage of adulthood that intimacy won't exist anymore and they will see each other as strangers and her trust isn't an option * Also I would mention sharing of family properties, yes when the parents are no more sharing of properties amongst brothers can lead to a serious hate which at some point can be bloody * Different mothers or fathers, sharing a single parent can also lead to lack of trust, as one may say after all your mother isn't my mother we are just sharing the same father and trust will also not be an option here ---- ![1000078965.jpg](https://cdn.steemitimages.com/DQmV7ABFm51QPtZ5BoCRxaupYZPwqXMRc8VGpVK8Hx94nEc/1000078965.jpg) ^{Picture source}

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Why??? (Friends)

| | ------ | --------- *Now to the most common one, why do people find it difficult to trust their friends? I have many answers to that but here I will be listing only few* ----- >^{***Even on the news we have been hearing stories of how roommate would betray and even harm the other roommate, we have been hearing how friends would mislead each other to be initiated into a cult group, we've also been hearing how friends would be stealing from their own friends***} ---- *Some people would say that a good friend is better than a bad brother, but after hearing all this betrayals from friends and some even got to experience it, how do we still manage to trust again*. ----- ![1000078964.jpg](https://cdn.steemitimages.com/DQmcMjFss54MRqgFFfazb6BXwZXEeuDwM7tRLFqbxohWxhm/1000078964.jpg) ^{Picture source}

---- ***My experience*** ---- >^{***Back then when I was in secondary school I remember a good friend of mine asked me for help, according to him he said that he needed an urgent money to take care of some things which to him was important, so as a good friend I gave him my last card which was 2000 naira equivalent to 9.7 Steem, and it took me more than a month to raise my snacks money to that extent.***} >^{***He said that he was going to pay me back, so after two weeks I asked him about the money instead of him telling me that he would give me (which of course I know as friends I will pay you back may last up to a year I totally get that) but instead when I asked him because he was older than me he said that he's not giving me anything and if I want it so badly that I would have to beat him and collect it back, he was the most famous guy in our set his name Praise Emmanuel Brownson.***} ----- *So if you were wondering why friends find it difficult to trust friends I think some of those betrayals really play a big role in it, so in summary betrayals amongst friends either present or from experience causes lack of trust.* ---- *This will be the end of my entry and I hope you all enjoyed reading through my article thanks and remain blessed.* -----