Soce has become a very porpular and familiar word in the dating world, I always hear a girl or a buy talking about their Spec in a man or woman, truly not everyone is the same and we wll habe our space in a man or woman same as me here. Thanks to @okere-blessing for coming up with this wonderful contest idea. | *How frequently do you hear the word Spec? Can you briefly explain it to people who may be hearing it for the first time?* | |-| ![17415079143138381544474589118511.jpg](https://cdn.steemitimages.com/DQmctu2vMuium5PyuSLUPqXRkNMseRnowXSw347Qybqab66/17415079143138381544474589118511.jpg) [Source](https://pixabay.com/photos/whisper-woman-man-408482/) Almost every day whenever I am with my friends we always discuss about our Spec in a woman, that's how a woman should look and also her overall character and way of living (lifestyle) some women are just beautiful without character and that kind of woman can never be my Spec. Ladies especially have their own type of men. Some don't even have Spec at all. The most important thing for you is just to have money and you will win their heart. Even in my working place and my everyday life I always hear the word spec because the world is now full of dating applications where you will see a little girl or boy talking about their Spec in a relationship. > *To cut the long story short, a spec can be seen as your type of man or woman. That's the partner that will make you happy and comfortable* Spec can be seen as an appearance of how youe dream partner, the character they possess, their skin colour because some don't like fair girls and some love black ones, all human are different so we all have our Spec according to our taste. When a girl is beautiful, hardworking, and with a good character, she might almost be every man spec because she is unique and different from others. | *What are some qualities your spec must possess?* | |-| ![FB_IMG_1720126804132.jpg](https://cdn.steemitimages.com/DQmbjsY1N1z3Ur6WPVcBDPZnTtDYAQRJY5GMW3ta25sXe7X/FB_IMG_1720126804132.jpg) | ![FB_IMG_1717860801656.jpg](https://cdn.steemitimages.com/DQmYhrFK7SqSEEfDZxJLjgj9Mp7qSCknGhcYYzRDmd3h8qf/FB_IMG_1717860801656.jpg) -|- ![FB_IMG_1709705439118.jpg](https://cdn.steemitimages.com/DQmZa9BTbSvhU8mrSssEYCv4RP2oXz5JnE9gueiGx425eK4/FB_IMG_1709705439118.jpg) | ![20241228_160800.jpg](https://cdn.steemitimages.com/DQmXnFtaqScV1QniTSpwdDVdDyEgsgjG31hPjHANiMDDTNw/20241228_160800.jpg) -|- **The fear of God** yes my partner must be God fearing and also committed to religious activities, ideally women are more prayerful and serious in church than men so I will want to be in a relationship with someone who will draw me closer to God. **Self contentment** a lady who is self contented is indeed a blessing in disguise. This is the kind of lady I am looking to build a future with. This kind of girl can manage anything you give or offer to her, and also, she won't compete with anyone or compare you to other men. **Trust worthy and honest** a partner should be very honest and will bring nothing but joy and happiness to my life and will go extra miles just to make her happy and feel loved. ![FB_IMG_1712587978452.jpg](https://cdn.steemitimages.com/DQmNmKdmboCkD1W2FUHG6EiMRnv4zjjGH3EUYEPYWHoW1JD/FB_IMG_1712587978452.jpg) I also need a partner who is caring and understanding, this kind of girl are wife materials, and once I find one of them, I will make sure that our relationship leads to marriage. I am a very shy type so I will need a girl that will understand me very well and also take very good care of me, all my life I haven't been loved by a lady anyone I meet is just with me for her selfish interest. I just pray to find a partner who will love me for who I am and also treat me like a king. | *Do you think people should wait until they find their Spec before getting along or getting married to each other.?* | |-| ![20241228_161300.jpg](https://cdn.steemitimages.com/DQmSAeYZypPKDehFi8UjVyHB3BJf6hFLn37ZJuQX3XKGatE/20241228_161300.jpg) Funny enough the one who will love and take very good care of you might not even be your spec, and you have no choice than to learn how to love them because they will give you happiness and make you fell loved. You spec in the other way might break your heart and also treat you less because other men are chasing her so she won't love and care for you. > *Fall for the soul and not for the face or body shape because all this have betrayed many mem and also shattered their heart.* I can't advise someone to wiat for their Spec so as to be in a romantic relationship, love the one who takes you as her priority, someone who give you peace and comfort this gift is priceless. Marriage is all about happiness and when you both love and care about each other the relationship will last for a lifestyle. ![20241214_135745~2.jpg](https://cdn.steemitimages.com/DQmZPRyFbpf36VzUCSuCDrnwm22MdWFajeQoumPW9L1q11r/20241214_135745~2.jpg) I have a spec in a women but that doesn't mean that I will wait until I find her, once I see a lady that will make me happy and feel loved I will dive into her very fast because good women are blessing from God and they are very hard to find, so once you're lucky to have them hold and cherish them very well. | *What do you do when your Spec is not in love with you.* | |-| Is very simple I will just quit from the relationship instead of forcing myself over someone who doesn't even care if I exist or not. The greatest feeling in life is to love and be loved and love is never forced, is flows with passion and emotion so once I discover that my Spec isn't in live with me I will just quit instead of hurting myself and also playing with my emotion. *^{I am inviting @josepha, @pandora2010, @lirvic and @ulfatulrahmah to participate in this wonderful contest}*