***Greetings distinguished Steemians,*** it is a pleasure to be a part of this contest this week. The question **What happens when we live in separate Rooms?** Makes me feel inquisitive. At some point I begin to wonder the position of marriage in the society. Should it be treated as a private thing or possibly as a public stuff? ![1000423185.jpg](https://cdn.steemitimages.com/DQmY6HHZJAW7LP2mNgTGPM9JhyTvp6XGkvoJpxp8S1jz6ce/1000423185.jpg)[Pixabay](https://pixabay.com/illustrations/modern-cellphone-people-couple-7709494/) Whatever your answer maybe, the position of the society is always fixed as we will not fail to step in when something positively or negatively extraordinary takes place. As such this calls for total carefulness on the things we do in marriage. It is based on this premised that I will be sending in my opinion in regards ***What really happens when we live in separate Rooms***

Couples Choosing to Stay in Separate Rooms While Living in the Same House

| |- The issue of couples staying in different rooms which was an acceptable and standardized practice among polygamists is becoming a normal culture in monogamy as well. While this practice was an ideal practice in polygamous marriage was to enable the different wives and their husband have their own space and convenience. in monogamy where we have one man to one woman, there exist series of debates and diverse opinions have on why they should stay in separate rooms. While, some believe that couples staying in different rooms would help to strengthen their relationship by providing them with sufficient personal space. Others are on the opinion that as the name couples relates coupling, there's no justification for them not to couple in the same room as failure to share in the same room is directly or indirectly pointing to some form of emotional or physical detachment among themselves especially when the separation comes after the sharing of room has taken place. ***In my Candid opinion, I feel that these kind of decisions are always dependent upon personal preferences, dynamic of their relationship and in most cases the cultural norms they uphold to. In essence, though I prefer couples staying together in a shared room, I do not condemn those who chooses to divide their rooms provided it is a concretize agreement bonded with understanding between the two parties.*** ![1000423184.png](https://cdn.steemitimages.com/DQmaMqgzeVdha8hcnyuGr6YVbTtUaw4tkALBynaTazQQJ6a/1000423184.png)[Pixabay](https://pixabay.com/illustrations/ai-generated-bedroom-bed-furniture-8709665/)

Should the Topic of Separate Rooms Be Discussed Before Marriage?

| |- Premarital period also known as courtship by some people happens to be a period of time marriage should be designed. It is a period of time people who intend to go into marriage should sit back and design their marriage the way they would want it to be. One of the ways to achieve this is through deep and meaningful discussions on how and what they would want their marriage to look like. Going by this, I feel that one of the important areas of discussion should be in regards the sharing of rooms and leaving separately debate. ***It essential to discuss this issue before marriage for the following reasons*** Expectations Alignment| Emotional and physical needs| Conflict Prevention| Cultural and Religious consideration| Future changes among others| --|--|--|--|--| Expectation Alignment| --| Marriage as an institution involves a crucial expectation about living arrangements on whether to stay together or not (sometimes husband and wife may even leave in different countries) and discussing this before marriage takes place has a key role to play for a successful marriage as it would make their expectations Align and both the husband and the wife would joyfully operate on the same page. Emotional and Physical Needs| --| This very factor is a function of understanding each other's perception in regards personal space so as to avoid intruding and stepping on each other's feet after marriage. In essence, it is crucial that this topic is brought up before marriage takes place. Conflict Prevention| --| The differences in opinion in regards partners sharing the same room and not sharing the same room which in a long run may births conflict and thereafter crisis during marriage can be better handled if this issue is discussed and sincere decisions taken before marriage. Cultural and Religious Considerations| --| Though not very many, there are certain cultures and religious sects which expects couples not to share a room and there are many others which demands that couples must share their rooms. Discussing about this would help to avoid futuristic frictions. Future Changes| --| It is true that future unforeseen circumstances may hit such as children, health concerns, and even work which may warrant temporary or permanent separation or sharing of room. Discussing about this would help in enhancing adequate adaptability when it comes.

Sharing the Same Room vs. Living in Separate Rooms

| |- Deciding weather to live separately or together is a choice and one needs to consider several factors such as the importance and benefits in both cases. This work would consider Reasons for living together before touching the opposite and then presenting my view

Reasons for living together

| |- Enhances Emotional bonding | Physical Intimacy|Effective Communication| Practicality| and Security plus Comfort| --|--|--|--|--| Enhances Emotional Bonding| --| There's no doubt that when two people are staying together in the same room, they will experience a higher intimacy, emotional connection and would spend more time sharing memories together. The shared moments plays significant roles in fostering and strengthening the bond existing between them and as well as promoting trust. Better Communication| --| Though communication could also be effective when couples are not staying in the same room. Staying in the same room leads to greater first hand communication where conflicts could be peacefully resolved before sleeping so as to help in enhancing their relationship. Physical Intimacy| --| There is no doubt that physical Intimacy is part of marriage and when couples shares room they exposed themselves to higher closeness which inturns permits marital satisfaction. However, this is in an ideal state as different factors such as child birth, sickness or work may hinder this. Security and Comfort| --| Even as a single person, I feel secured being around someone. This is greatly experienced among couples especially in a cold night where both parties needs to cuddle each other and sleep. Practicality| --| In other to understand this, ones need to think of the extra expenses involved in renting and furnishing a single apartment talk more of doing two. When couples shares room this expenses is reduced and their daily routine simplify as well.

Reasons for Living in Separate Rooms

| |- Just like living in the same room, living different rooms has it own benefits among which include; Personal Space and Independence | Better Sleep Quality|Avoiding unnecessary Conflicts| Increased Appreciation of Romance | Health and well being | --|--|--|--|--| ![1000423192.jpg](https://cdn.steemitimages.com/DQmZKJzqfmpKzn4M62CPYAXvZL3MhL2NtCyTnRZu96FfKGm/1000423192.jpg)[Pixabay](https://pixabay.com/illustrations/ai-generated-woman-asleep-sleep-8617811/) Personal Space and Independence| --| When couples have separate rooms it allows each to maintain their personal Space and gain some level of independence as they did not to explain things all the time. Better Sleep Quality| --| Imagine having a partner that loves to work late at night, listen to music at time, snores while sleeping or possibly love sleeping in a dark room while you love the reverse. A situation where couples stays in separate rooms eliminates these difficulties and disturbance and then promotes better sleep quality. Avoiding Unnecessary Conflicts| --| In a relationship, conflicts could result from personal habits, such as smoking, drinking, keeping late night level of cleanliness etc. when couples live separately, most of conflicts are minimized while they Romance would increased. Increased Romance| --| From my Little experience, I have come to discover that my love and appreciation grows essential when we have planned and routines visit of our love one. Health and Well-being| --| The problems associated with health could also discourage couple from staying together and in this situation, separate rooms become a perfect option to choose. From the aforementioned, since sharing rooms and living separately present unique benefits of their own, it is difficult to decide which one is the best. However, couples who appreciates and values emotional closeness, better communication and physical Intimacy, sharing room would go well with them. In addition to this, shared room saves space and resources. On the contrary, couples who prioritize personal Space, quality sleep, late night etc and collaboration issues, living separately is highly recommended. ![1000423189.jpg](https://cdn.steemitimages.com/DQmQk9UCFBZapX1zpV6yJ9BE5Bnpb1LYWk9uX24AZGZJVZL/1000423189.jpg)[Pixabay](https://pixabay.com/illustrations/silhouette-child-welcome-friendship-68874/) ***Personally, though I prefer staying in one room with my spouse, the most important thing is understanding and appreciating each other's needs and choices because whether couples stays together or not, when there's an effective communication, trust and love, understanding would be their watch word thus promoting an healthy relationship.*** I invite @eno-obong0, @saintkelvin17, @impersonal, @bossj23 and @noraandy to tip into this discussion.

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