![IMG-20250223-WA0015.jpg](https://cdn.steemitimages.com/DQmQVz6fHLD2sHfF3YaxM3irZWy6Tc3A2r7WeznJ8UfrS4j/IMG-20250223-WA0015.jpg) An interesting topic this is. The word "spec" has become a normal word among ladies. Even ladies who might not know the meaning of the word practice what the word means when choosing a partner. ^{How frequently do you hear the word Spec? Can you briefly explain it to people who may be hearing it for the first time?}| ---| In today's world, everything has been "spec- cified" from choice of clothes, to hairdo, down to the food one eats so the word "spec" has really become a popular go to word. For the benefit of those new to the word, The word "spec" is short for specification. This word refers to the qualities, characteristics, or attributes that someone is looking for in a romantic partner. Meaning, your spec is your ideal type of person that you would like to be in a relationship with. ^{What are some qualities your spec must possess?}| ---| My ideal spec is a man after God's heart. * A man of empathy, and kind. I value kindness a lot in a man. * A man able to lead his home in both spiritual, physical,emotional and financial matters. I don't like men who are whimps- this is a big turn off for me. - A man who understands humour and sarcastic jokes as I enjoy those a lot😂😂. - Not a people pleaser but one who knows when to speak and when to be quiet. When it has to do with choosing a life partner, there are specifications that are not negotiable for me. I'm not in a hurry to marry just anything, like my pastor would always say: > Because you've wasted time, doesn't mean you should waste the rest. I firmly believe that good men are out there and mine is one of them, especially when it has to do with my faith, beliefs, and values. I don't really fuss over some things like appearance, skin color, height, although a man has to look and smell nice( by this I mean personal hygiene and overall appearance.) All right, to the next question😁. ^{Do you think people should wait until they find their Spec before getting along or getting married to each other.?}| ---| ![1741345678268.jpg](https://cdn.steemitimages.com/DQmeJBaS79e4Az3YE8Co3TrWUerpAMW9ZYcvEzveybEjZXX/1741345678268.jpg) Out of experience, I've come to realize that love finds us in different ways. One doesn't have to WAIT AND PAUSE THEIR LIFE just because they haven't found their ideal "spec". My advice is to get to know people, interact with people, you never can tell. Sometimes, our specs don't look like it from the get go,but when you get to meet people and relate with them in comfortable conditions, you'd find out that they could be different from what you first envisioned. ^{What do you do when your Spec is not in love with you??}| ---| 🤔🤔Honestly, Eat chicken or drink water and rest😂. ![IMG-20230203-WA0043.jpeg](https://cdn.steemitimages.com/DQmVR6eVgvD9wJs4FTw6ezX7qkM3aamvQXRRFB5hELZsXWU/IMG-20230203-WA0043.jpeg) Because I love someone doesn't always guarantee that they will love me back or want to be with me. The best thing would be to let the friendship be because not all friendships are meant to lead to marriage. I can't force people to love me. Life doesn't work like that. Forcing someone to reciprocate my feelings for them will only lead to heartaches and heavy doses of disappointments in future and personally, I think my peace of mind is too valuable to trade Additionally, I've discovered two reasons why our "spec" may not spec us back😂😂 The first is that they genuinely don't love you in a romantic way or feel the way you feel about them..... Let it rest. People can love you but with different kinds of love here. They could love you as a sister😂,(sad but true), as a companion at work, a friend, the list goes one. Secondly is that you have a repulsive character or behaviour trait that makes them think twice about you. In as much as this is bitter to hear, we need to work on ourselves to become the kind of "spec" we want to have. As they say, Like attracts. I'd draw the curtains here, but not before I invite @hyacinthfavour @ninapenda and @jovita30 to participate. All pictures are mine.