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in our lives we need a companion to build a household, but to propose to a woman we must go through several stages according to the customs and culture of our respective places.

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parents who have grown-up daughters are very anxious if they have not found a match as their life partner, especially in today's modern era where free association often occurs and unwanted things happen, be grateful if someone proposes to their daughter to be their life partner.

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as is the custom in our area, if a young man and a girl like each other, then the parents will propose to the girl, which means that the local community already knows that the girl already has a partner, she is not allowed to accept someone else's proposal of course according to procedure.

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the proposal also carries a sign in the form of a partial dowry and is known by the parents and village officials, mutually determining the time to hold a marriage contract as a requirement for the validity of a husband and wife according to religious teachings..

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cake and ranup decorations as souvenirs that have become a tradition when wanting to propose to a girl, as well as a makeshift dowry to strengthen a relationship and if at some point it cannot be continued or broken off for certain reasons then the dowry will be returned because they are not yet officially husband and wife.

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before the marriage contract takes place, the two prospective brides and grooms are not allowed to live together and live in the same house, even though they have brought a sign or proposed to her, according to religious law, what is required to become husband and wife is the marriage contract, which is married by the female guardian in front of witnesses and recognized by the religious affairs office to obtain a marriage certificate...

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this is a glimpse of a girl's proposal that often happens and the culture in our area before the marriage contract takes place. Thank you to all my friends for your support for me.

*** Indonesia, March 3, 2025 *** Greetings @amre