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I am @selina1**} _{**From #Bangladesh**} ![1000042891.jpg](https://cdn.steemitimages.com/DQmRSsMUoU6459P4ZUZ8b3HMXZ7d1gt2kfhqZdxMovuHMj9/1000042891.jpg) [Source ](https://pixabay.com/photos/wedding-newlyweds-marriage-love-8028145/) I am starting by wishing all my Steemit friends good health. Alhamdulillah, by the grace of Allah, I am very well. I will participate in a great engagement challenge today. The theme of the engagement challenge is "SLC-S24/W3 - Powerful Debate | Love & Arguments". Nowadays, many relationships are destroyed due to arguments between husband and wife. So the theme of this engagement challenge is great for the current times. I will share some of my experiences with you through this engagement challenge to keep the bond of husband and wife strong. So let's get started. I am starting by wishing all my Steemit friends good health. Alhamdulillah, by the grace of Allah, I am very well. I will participate in a great engagement challenge today. The theme of the engagement challenge is "SLC-S24/W3 - Powerful Debate | Love & Arguments". Nowadays, many relationships are ruined due to arguments between husband and wife. So the theme of this engagement challenge is great for the current times. I will share some of my experiences with you through this engagement challenge to keep the bond of husband and wife strong. So let's get started. At the beginning, I want to start with the story of a couple I know. One of my friends' names is Asma and she got married to a boy named Farooq as per her family. Initially, their days were good because they both got married by choice. Farooq was hot-tempered and Asma was also a little hot-tempered. It is normal for a husband and wife to have arguments. So there were often quarrels in their family, but due to Farooq's hot temper, he would not admit his own mistakes and would blame Asma. At first, Asma took it as normal, but later she did not want to accept it. In this way, their family lasted for a few years. But since quarrels often occur between husband and wife, Asma did not want to give in after receiving repeated neglect from Farooq. One day, they quarreled over some matter and no one wanted to forgive anyone for this quarrel, that is, no one admitted their mistakes. After three years of marriage, they separated due to their hot temper. A relationship lasts through trust, love, concessions, and forgiveness. The above couple could have been happy if they had treated each other in this way. > Express your simple thoughts and show us that when any quarrel or problem arises in a couple, men are the first to admit their mistakes and apologize to their wives so that their relationship remains intact. Is this right or should the one who is more at fault in the quarrel first admit his mistakes and apologize to his partner and try to fix the relationship? The biggest and unbreakable bond in the world is the relationship between husband and wife. This relationship is a birth-to-birth relationship. In any religion, after parents, the relationship between husband and wife is respected. Through the relationship between husband and wife, two minds meet. However, the mood and thoughts of every husband and wife are not exactly the same. Because every person has different thoughts. He has his own personal opinions. However, when living together, both husband and wife can have quarrels. Because the situation becomes such that the opinions of the husband and wife are not the same. Maybe one is more at fault and the other is less at fault or one is at fault and the other is not. This is how quarrels usually happen. Now, if there is a quarrel between a husband and wife, it is not right that only the men should apologize to the wife. Because it is not always the wife who is at fault in a quarrel, the wife may also be at fault. In that case, during a quarrel, you should understand with a cool head who is at fault. During a quarrel, the one who is at fault should apologize and handle the situation. However, there are some common sense considerations between husband and wife such as giving in to each other, trusting each other. ![1000042893.jpg](https://cdn.steemitimages.com/DQmeRRkACXWLwV1LEay5kikvMsfBye2DntW6SBDGNPLp5SY/1000042893.jpg) [Source](https://pixabay.com/photos/couple-elderly-walking-fall-trail-6653517/) > Whereas many people think that during a quarrel, the husband should apologize first and their wives should resolve the conflict and fix the relationship first. Do you agree with this view, or do you think it is different in your case? Express your own feelings. During a quarrel, the husband should apologize first and their wives should resolve the conflict and fix the relationship first. I do not agree with this statement. Because the quarrel can be caused by both the wife or the husband. In that case, the wife or the husband will understand the situation and look at each other with forgiveness and both sides will have to try to resolve the conflict. If both forgive each other to resolve their quarrel, then this relationship will be good. It is not right that only men should apologize and women should take steps to resolve the conflict. This shows the exclusive effect of a relationship. A relationship survives on the decisions of both, so both have to take steps to resolve the dispute. Then the husband and wife's quarrel will be resolved. I am saying from my experience that in the midst of a quarrel between two relationships, a third party actually ruins the relationship more. So we should all take steps to resolve the conflict, both husband and wife. > However, in this case, would it be wise for both husband and wife to admit their mistakes and apologize to each other to save their relationship, or would it be wise to maintain their pride and create unrest in the family day after day? Which do you think is right? Well, I have already said that it is wise for both husband and wife to apologize to each other to save the relationship. Because the relationship of husband and wife survives based on the decisions of both. A relationship in which there is pride instead of forgiveness will never survive. From my experience, I have seen many relationships where the relationship has been ruined due to the pride of either the husband or the wife. When a husband or wife has pride, if there is a quarrel between them and if it is his fault, he never wants to admit it because of his pride. As the saying goes, pride is the root of downfall. The relationship between husband and wife is a relationship of love. And there is never pride in a relationship of love. Forgiveness is such a thing that when an apology is asked for in a relationship, that relationship becomes a stronger relationship than the past. So I think it is wise for husband and wife to forgive each other to resolve their quarrels. ![1000042892.jpg](https://cdn.steemitimages.com/DQmRssXCAM3JhMpdBVzbgBiXUesR6kahCHBcvB7cWNAG8Bz/1000042892.jpg) [Source ](https://pixabay.com/photos/happy-valentines-day-couple-marriage-260899/) > Conclusion When a couple has a fight, the first thing that comes to mind is the general issue. Later, the amount of fights increases due to not forgiving each other and not admitting fault. To be a happy couple, one should make allowances for each other and admit mistakes when they are wrong. In the story that I shared with you above, if Farooq understood his mistakes and forgave Asma and Asma had looked at Farooq with forgiveness, and loved each other without neglecting each other, then their relationship could have definitely survived. To sustain the relationship of a couple, both of them have to make allowances. ![17331411941979095590811218788702.png](https://cdn.steemitimages.com/DQmfAkUqGw5uy1jNmTcb68ECgENHtdXjHrr83YSaNXr9hjW/17331411941979095590811218788702.png) *** |

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