WHAT TO LOOK OUT FOR ![wedding-rings-3611277_640.webp](https://cdn.steemitimages.com/DQmSa7y2fJ1kWVnL4zGsBe9J7Jt9Hc6sKPxmhuAtif2MyRt/wedding-rings-3611277_640.webp) [source](https://pixabay.com/photos/wedding-rings-engagement-rings-3611277/) *CHARACTER* Someone with a character problem and someone with a spiritual problem who will you choose to marry? Spiritual problem can be dealt with through Divine encounter with the anointing of God , character problem on the other hand can hardly be changed. Character problems include the following:LACK OF SELF CONTROL: someone who cannot control their weakness and excessiveness.one who cannot control his/her sexual desires will always cheat on you in marriage. Any woman that cannot control her tongue will always be a thorn to her husband in marriage. Self control also involves the ability to manage your emotions and especially your anger, so that you don't hurt those you claim you love. ILL-TEMPERED PERSON Everyone gets angry , but there are those who are known for their anger problems. Some choose to call it bad temper or hot temper, but basically,an angry person will only hurt others in marriage. Avoid anyone who gets angry frequently and suddenly. Avoid anyone who cannot deal with their anger issues as a single, because it will surely get worse in marriage. UNFAITHFULNESS,FLIRT & SEX-ADDICT This is a character default that has destroyed so many marriages and it originate from one's single life. Some singles are hooked up with multiple sex partners and such altitude will surely manifest more in marriage. Avoid such kind of people if you are not ready to be hurt in marriage by an unfaithful spouse. MATERIALISTIC AND COVETOUSNESS When a person is only interested in your money and what he or she can get out from you, such character traits is a sign of bad marriage in the making. It also shows itself in negative altitude towards money, such as gambling , betting, being too extravagant , stinginess , failure to pay tithe, being too demanding, bad saving habit ,etc . These are obvious signs that such marriage will encounter financial challenges that might affect the harmony of the marriage. LAZINESS Laziness is not the absence of work; rather it is negative carefree altitude that makes a person to avoid working. A lazy person as a single will only frustrate your life in marriage. Effective home management involves two persons who are willing and ready to play their Marital and social roles effectively and assist each other in life. Getting married to a lazy person will put undue tension on you in marriage . LYING One of the major challenges in marriage is the absence of trust or abuse of trust. Never get involved with a liar! One whose words cannot be trusted or one who has shown a great tendency of lying as a single has an attitudinal problem that marriage cannot cure! Marriage will only expose his/her lying abilities. If you truly love that person then discover why he/she tells lies , and deal with it before marriage. STEALING Nothing is as dangerous in life as getting married to a thief or a kleptomaniac . It is sometimes refered to as a spiritual problem that manifests in the altitude and life pattern of the person. One who steals will only bring untold sorrow to his / her partner In marriage. Getting married to a thief he / she may even steal from you and your children may learn the pattern . Avoid it. UNSUBMISSIVENESS & STUBBORNNESS Never get married to a woman who cannot submit to your authority as a man! As a splinter , if she is stubborn and unsubmissive to her parents, pastor, boss ,etc then she has the character problem of being a trouble maker. Avoid her . There are men who are stubborn , arrogant and excessive proud. Avoid such men so that you don't become their foot In marriage. DOMINEERING Avoid getting married to a dictator or bossy person, who takes decisions for you and treats you like a child! Both Male and female . Choleric behave as such if you also have such tendencies to be bossy and domineering , in marriage it will clash ! "Two captains cannot be in one ship "! PASSIVITY AND UNINVOLVED Another dangerous character that badly affects marriage is one being too passive and uninvolved . A passive person allows others to dominate their lives and will behave like a passenger in a bus who has nothing to contribute to the destination of that bus ! A balanced marriage involved two nature minds who become partners to fulfill their purpose in life! Avoid getting married to someone who adds nothing into your life. WITHDRAWAL AND CRITICIZER One of the worse things that can happen to anyone in life is getting married to an enemy who pretends to be y friend! Nothing you do is ever good enough in his / her eyes, even other celebrate you outside but you are constantly criticized and tolerated by your spouse. When your spouse does not involve him/herself in your pursuits , but becomes a spectator by choice and does not see any good about you; then you are in bondage! Discover these signs as a single and avoid been entangled with a wrong partner in marriage. ENVY AND JEALOUSY When you are in love with someone who competes with you and is angry when good things happen to you; someone who envies your talents , achievements and personality , it is obvious a bad sign not to marry that person!. When a person cannot deal with his/ her jealousy towards you but gets offended each time people of the opposite sex are seen with you; that's a negative attitude that will drive people away from you if you get married to such a person! It is also a sign that such a person cannot trust you in marriage and will surely dominate ,criticize and make your life bitter in marriage. You must be prayerful observe the character of the person before accepting/making proposal for marriage don't ignore "danger signs" it's dangerous. @steemalive @samuel20 @charis20 @peachyladiva @godsbest @pricelesspresh @ceendy20 @ngoenyi @prolee @davchi @focusnow @whitestallion