# Introduction Hello Steemians, hope you all are doing well, I'm happy to be here once again to share my story with you all. Before I start my story, I will like to appreciate the kind of family I came out from especially my nuclear family, they deserve all the best things in life. I grew up from a family that render help to others and doesn't receive help from other family members. My dad, whenever he was in position of helping out, he tries his best to render such help. I could remember when I wanted to go for my IT program. I decided to do it at Abuja and I told my parents about it and my dad blurted refused me going over there. I proposed to stay with one of my cousin who is already married. I asked my dad why won't he allow me, he asked me to sit down and shared some experience with me. My dad told me he trained my cousin all through his university days and wanted to sponsor him throughout his master's degree at FUTO but my cousin abandon the program and didn't further it. He told me even up till now, my cousin have never called him on phone to even check how he is doing. That was how my fantasy to Abuja city ended I was stucked at home to do my I.T program here. ![Screenshot_20220804-204020_1.jpg](https://cdn.steemitimages.com/DQmQ2tcUHX4fgPL8KBxWQhe61Y7AwPDbXRHREPHV19NhZXS/Screenshot_20220804-204020_1.jpg) # Have you been helped by your extended family members A big no, not even for once. The once that tried to help me out, I saw shege staying with her. My nuclear family render much help than we receive and are even ignored and not even thankful by those that receive such helping hands from us. They say givers never lack, but these days it seems like givers they suffer pass. # How did your extended family members help or refused to help you If you want to help someone, do it with your whole heart without having anything in mind or receiving any reward from it. When I was in year one, due to the strike issues we had then, I couldn't pay for accommodation and then it was seriously taskfull. I had a cousin sister who was in finals then, so my parents asked me to stay with her for that session, by next session my accommodation will be settled. I was happy staying with her, because we weren't even close for once. She happened to know that I even exist when she got admission in school, that was when she knew my name and we spoke lengthly, though she stayed in my family house within those period she got admission and then I was in boarding school, so we spoke once in a while whenever I came back from school before she got settled and moved out. Staying with her within those period was taskful, I was happy because I was going to know her more and we could be close and I will take her as my senior sister. Within the period of staying with her, as I said earlier she was in final year and I was in year one. Now these are two taskful period of staying in school, year one and final year. I was trying my best to finish up my clearance, lecture and at the same time exams which was around the corner. Now our issues started when I turn to be a slave to her, whenever I come back from school she will tell me what to cook and I will do that right away, most times I will be the one to buy the foodstuffs with my money, cook and when she comes back and eat I will receive all kinds of insult from her. A day came when she came back, there was no food, I was sleeping then she woke me up, asked me to use the money I have, buy spaghetti, cook it for us to use for dinner. I checked the money I have, it was already budgeted for something else, so I told her about it, she ignored me, I continued my sleep, she came again and started shouting at me that why haven't I bought what she asked me to buy. I told her the money I have was for something else and I don't have any spare money to buy the food item she asked me to buy. That was how we didn't eat that night, the next morning she travelled and didn't mention where she was going to. When she came back, I went to welcome her, she ignored me and walked away, she stopped talking to me, she treated me as if I never existed and she asked me never to use any of her things again. # What was your challenge then My challenge then was accommodation but I was treated like a stranger. The whole senero, I never mentioned then to my parents because I know they won't believe me, but when her dad was seriously sick, which is my uncle, he came to stay with us and my dad was the one taking care of him though he had two wives and 7 children. My senior brother was the one bathing him everyday, he made sure he was okay and even his weekly dialysis was funded by my Dad and at the same time we tried to talk with him for him not to go into depression because of his sickness. It was when he left our house and stayed with his wife in the village for 3weeks he died ( may his soul rest in peace, Amen). # Because of how you were treated by an extended family member,how do you see them I don't hold any grudges against anybody, though I settle my difference with her but then her comments about me made me to keep my distance away from her. Everybody is just on there own trying to bring out the best in themselves. I wished her all the best in all her endeavors. # Do you think you can survive without the assistance of extended family members I and my family have been surviving and pushing through in all situations. Even at the verge of other bad experience, they still try there best to help out in any little way they could. # Conclusion Render help to people in any little way you could even though it's not appreciated, never cease to stop rendering help to humanity. Thank you for reading. Thank you for your time.