![image.png](https://cdn.steemitimages.com/DQmSfkae7Fq9EVFv8yFJAeAgLygkLcZYwwHH5ttRquUnmut/image.png) [source](https://plus.unsplash.com/premium_photo-1683299158412-86cb86551aa4?ixlib=rb-4.0.3&ixid=M3wxMjA3fDB8MHxwaG90by1wYWdlfHx8fGVufDB8fHx8fA%3D%3D&auto=format&fit=crop&w=774&q=80) We fail to pay attention to compatibility in marriage, which has resulted in many issues (including separation) for couples in today's world. It amuses me how people dismiss the issue of compatibility, but I would not condemn anyone because many people are ignorant about what they are supposed to know. I usually encourage people to see a marriage counselor before any form of union so that both sides involved in the relationship would put lots of things into consideration before going deep into the marriage. People no longer wait until they are about to make their union legal; instead, I have seen people seek counseling as soon as they begin dating because anything could happen along the way. ##

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# When asked if you are compatible with your lover, what is the first thing that comes to mind? I saw the need to write about this after I got a terrible response from a lady in my neighborhood and I wouldn't blame her lack of knowledge. Many times we are blinded by love but what is love when there is no happiness or peace in the marriage, it is best not to bring the kids to the world and then make them go through fighting the battle of survival till death takes them away. Referring to information as power is genuine because when you have the knowledge, you have the power to make the right decisions in life. I've recently read about people dying as a result of sickle cell disease. It breaks my heart to realize that the victims of this illness have no fault; their parents did not consider their children's future before marrying and bringing them into the world to suffer from such a terrible illness. ![image.png](https://cdn.steemitimages.com/DQmQnVNE9khGVMEBsgxLz1B4nsHuWE8jvPXfjmdWvzBT6dH/image.png) [source](https://pixabay.com/photos/woman-blow-blowing-nose-blond-698964/) I've known people who have these illnesses, including a girl I taught when I was a teacher. She was very intelligent, the best in class, but her health prevented her from exploring the academic world. She misses school frequently, but it has no effect on her because she easily blends into schoolwork. This young angel was every teacher's favorite because she was strong and full of life; she was determined to succeed in school, but her health was a hindrance. To make a long story short, despite her best efforts, this girl died. Talking about compatibility goes beyond physical appearance or the resources (money) available for the couples to live a happy life. Among the various e-compatibility checks that are very important before marriage, I will make knowing each other's genotypes mandatory because of the consequences later in life. Many couples have married without checking this, and it has made life very difficult for the children they have brought into the world. ## Blood genotype. ![image.png](https://cdn.steemitimages.com/DQmPhwdnRoaqEPFfZ6JmoHGnt2ai58BBXWPkL21mjQvSwMJ/image.png) [source](https://pixabay.com/photos/sperm-egg-cell-fertilization-956482/) Our parents pass down certain genetic traits to us. This type of hemoglobin is thought to be present in our blood. Blood genotype, according to SYNLAB NIGERIA, identifies the type of hemoglobin present in red blood cells. Based on what you inherited from your parents, you may have hemoglobin types AA, AS, AC, SS, or SC. Blood genotypes SC, SS, and AS are associated with sickle cell disease, whereas AS is associated with sickle cell trait. There are four genotypes, but one is extremely uncommon in humans. The typical ones are ### AA ### AS ### AS While the rare one is ### AC. Not all these genotypes can be matched together, in order words some of the genotypes should not be joined together because the outcome will be bad. A person with an SS genotype should not marry another SS or AS because they may or may not have sickle cell offspring. We need to get a genotype test to see if you two are compatible to avoid problems later in the marriage. These problems can be very draining, and the chances of survival are very low, which means that sickle cell patients rarely survive with the genotype. Some doctors will give you advice and complete knowledge about everything you need to know about genotype compatibility; we must meet with them for proper counseling before it becomes irrelevant. We are often blinded by love, but what is love when there is no happiness or peace in the marriage? It is better not to bring children into the world than to make them fight the battle of survival until death takes them away.