Every heterosexual man grew up being fascinated by the opposite sex. And soon after puberty kicked in, this fixation assumed a whole new dimension. How to get the girl you liked to say yes, go on a date with you and probably cinch in a kiss or two at the end of the night became the new game among your peers. When you finally got into college, this game began even more interesting because of the whole thrill of bedding the finest and hottest girls on campus. However this whole flirting and winning thing didn’t come easy for some men. In fact it is a big challenge to most. In fact the more classy or highly sought after your target is, the greater the need to up your flirting skills.

In view of this, here a few tips on how to successfully flirt and score big time with that lady.

1) Understand the time and place

Putting moves on that colleague of yours in the office might seriously amount to sexual harassment in the work place and you will probably get your ass sued or fired. It’s best to wait till after hours when you’re gathered at the bar for a few glasses of wine or any other place more relaxing away from work. While at work, you could drop a few, however, very mild hints. These could include smiling brightly, fetching her coffee, helping with her photocopy, helping her put together that presentation, etc.

2) Understand your target

This is a very vital one. Before you go chasing, take a few moments or even days (if you have this luxury) to figuratively size up your challenge. Is she putting out hints that she is single and searching, this could include smiling easily, dressing provocatively, paying you enough attention, etc.? Or is she totally off the radar, like flashing her wedding band in your face, barely smiling, obviously waiting for her date, etc?

3) Look the part

To successfully flirt and score, you have to look appealing yourself. Be clean, dress well, smell good, brush your teeth regularly or keep a steady supply of breath mints. Besides looking good, you have to be confident or look it, even if you don’t feel very much so. Get your lines right and keep it short. For example, when you walk up to a lady at the bar, don’t say, “How are you doing? What’s your name? Where do you work? Can I sit beside you?” A simple, “Please oblige me the honor of sitting next to a pretty lady like yourself.” Then go ahead to order a refill of her glass.

4) Go in for the kill

As the drinks keep coming in steady, introduce yourself and ask her about herself or how her day went. Make sure you do ninety percent of the listening and ten percent of the talking. Act as if you’re deeply interested in what she’s saying and drop in a few comments, intelligent ones too, from time to time. If you listen well and ask the right question in a subtle manner, you will find out in time if she’s looking for a nice time or is up for something more serious like dating.

5) Close the deal

As you guys talk, there are a few points you should take note of. For example, lean in when talking to her. Try to brush her hair if it’s falling out of place. Do this gently and quickly. Ensure you make her laugh a lot and drop in a few hints she’s giving you the green light. For example, “your lips look so soft. I just want to taste them.” If she laughs or encourages you to, make sure you do it before the night is over. Ladies do not like to be disappointed.

If she’s looking for a date, make sure to set up one too, before the night or occasion (it might be at a friend's gallery show or birthday party, etc.) is over.

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