https://youtu.be/dwpTzTtHNrM ________ # In this conversation with Eric Bell, we discuss:

✨ How honesty has become an UNlearned behavior ✨ The special groups of people who are **beyond the reach of social conditioning** and, therefore, CANNOT lie ✨ The evolution of Lavish Listening ✨ The important roles of self-awareness, tension, conflict, disagreement and pain in our personal -- and, eventually, social -- transformation ✨ The special opportunity that arises, whenever you both want to, and also find it difficult to, say "No" ✨ The practicalities and principles of Non-Violent Communication (NVC) ✨ The beauty and freedom found in relationships that are cultivated for honest engagement ✨ How social dishonesty DELAYS **applied** Liberty and Anarchy ✨ The unnamed shape I drew is a [**prolate spheroid**](http://mathworld.wolfram.com/ProlateSpheroid.html) 🏈 ✨ The distinction between honesty and unkindness; they get conflated and should not be, because they are not the same. Unkind honesty is, ultimately, unhelpful ✨ A process of giving yourself empathy ✨ The usefulness of a [**Feelings + Needs Inventory**](https://www.cnvc.org/sites/default/files/feelings_inventory_0.pdf) ✨ Discontent is a thing of value. And guidance. Attend to it. ✨ Being spanked/paddled is not a good response to honesty (evidenced with a personal story) ✨ Humans are strong, resilient and capable of honest relations with each other https://s1.postimg.org/9150usa41r/W712.jpg ### ✨ First, we (must) speak truth to the power INSIDE us. Then, we (can) speak truth to the powers OUTSIDE us. And all along the way, we (can) speak truth to the power inside those we immediately share our life with. 💗

This is the simple and transformative work of Social Honesty.

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### Stay tuned for a free Social Honesty No-Paper!

In the meantime, please consider your relationships, with the simple trajectory below. It is a visual tool for honest self-assessment, not lazy blaming of others: #### 1:Downward 👎🏽Backward--------2:Still 🛑Stuck--------3:Onward 🚀Upward

*Do you have more 1s + 2s, then 3s? [Social Honesty](http://www.empathicwriter.com/) is all about relational 3s.* ![page-divider.jpg](https://steemitimages.com/DQmPP9iNGaZBScnL3xt7b9nt76m9aFRMuHYyPoYc8tkjFHR/page-divider.jpg) ### Please also check out: ## [Why Sincerity Is The Best Social Strategy](https://steemit.com/life/@erikaharris/why-sincerity-is-the-best-social-strategy)

**@erikaharris**