I have been a Steemian for 5 months. Not a long time. I’m still a newbie and just plankton in Steemit. I don’t know how to get success in this platform because I have not succeeded yet, but I have been here long enough to know for sure what will make you fail. I write this post to give you a frankly advice: **Stop doing the things bellow.** ___ ![U5dtg6jWHBpcpUz4HpLnwZRUDANUkub_1680x8400.jfif](https://res.cloudinary.com/hpiynhbhq/image/upload/v1517892463/ggfsxr2pxszvfat8wyyy.jpg) [Image Source](https://steemit.com/steemit/@thecrytotrader/i-really-hate-these-spammers-on-steemit-chat-found-another-spammer-on-steemit-chat) ___ # Comment as abusing Like any social network else, we keep posting on Steemit but most of us doesn’t know or meet each other in person. So, when you are still a new one, how to engage with the community where you don’t even know anyone? The only one way is commenting. We use comment to share about our thinking, opinion, discuss about some point of view, issues and after that getting to know each other. That is way to get engagement, follower and then upvoter.
That sounds really good. Commenting is seen as a great method to start in this platform, right? But what are you doing with commenting. It is great way to connect with others but not for abusing.
When I write something and post on Steemit. I show my own self, tell my personal stories. I want to use my post to connect with people and really wish for someone will read it. I share and I need to be shared too. I love to communicate and discuss with people. I would like to read comment which is a proof that they did read my post and really do understand what I share. With someone like that, I’m always willing to take a look in their blog to know who they are, follow them to keep being in touch and support them too.
***But this is what I have read in my post recently.***
![1 commenting.png](https://res.cloudinary.com/hpiynhbhq/image/upload/v1517892919/zvdssr345sipq1zwo8gm.png) *I don’t even know what he was saying in his own English but I know what he meant. I tried to give him advice but it seemed to not work well. I gave up responding.* ___ # Begging to get upvote As I said, I just a plankton in this platform. I am not a whale or dolphin but I’m pretty sure that begging is the most unlikely to get upvote. ***“Plzz upvote me”*** ***“Plz check my blog”***
Begging by commenting, begging by sending message, so on. I don’t know why. I wonder if they really think it works. Seriously???. How can they think that Whale or Dolphin will give them some pity upvote because of their begging? They don’t even care. With me, begging is the worst thing. When I joined in Steemit in the first time, even though I saw my posts was dying with pay out is 0$, I had never brought my post links to anywhere, anyone to spam “plz upvote me”. Why you make yourself so small? And it doesn’t even work. Stop being a beggar. ___ # Acting like I owe you something Recently, I have received some comment and msg such as: “I upvoted you. Upvote me back”; “I always upvote you, but why don’t you upvote me?” Come one. You go to my post, skip my content and scroll down quickly to comment, and your comment is just about upvoting exchange. It is not what I’m looking forward. And it is not good manner either. There is no guarantee about if you upvote someone, they will upvote you back. So don’t claim for upvoting as an exchange while you don’t even have a deal with them.
If you are out of patience, you can pretend that you care me, care about my post as well, then mention aimlessly about upvote. I’m smart enough to know what you want and still ok with it. But if you just come in and all you leave in my post is “upvote me back”. Plzz. I don’t owe you. Get out.
I always repay someones who keep supporting me loyally. I know how to show my appreciation, I upvoting them in return for their kindness without any request from them. I also try to get closer with whale and dolphin by commenting their post to make them gradually realize who I am, upvoting their posts to make them know that I keep supporting them. But I have never left a comment “upvote me back” in their post. They don’t have obligation to return anything for me. No one has that obligation. Keep supporting them or not. That is up to you. Please don’t show clearly that you are taking advantage of them even though actually you are.
![2 commenting.png](https://res.cloudinary.com/hpiynhbhq/image/upload/v1517893119/yyrzlj6oqp9knkvad9rj.png) *I hope he was able to pretend that he did read my post too.* ___ # You dont want to fail here, do you? So stop doing it! I left Facebook, Instagram,.. to come in Steemit. With me it is a great opportunity. I can get reward for spending my time on it. I can earn money by doing something I love the most is writing. Steemit open for me a big chance to discuss, communicate and share with people over the world. I don’t like what people are doing – making it worse, making it become an exchange just for money but not any real value which is considered as a foundation for development of Steemit. We can gain more things if we work together, support and help each other, but not in this wrong way.
Contributing good content, telling your own story, making effort and trying to connect with others. Don’t let money control you to be a spammer, abuse-er, beggar. Steemit doesn’t charge us anything to upvote each other (just about voting power to avoid abusing), but if you keep doing stupid things like this, you may not get any because you are annoying, you don’t even know how to behave yourself. Don’t make others not even want to upvote you even though it is free. ___ **KEEP CALM AND DO STEEMIT** ![75d7b9589e8ac165cec1a2687c258cf78bd1d0750bf836c434185fae41804084.jpg](https://res.cloudinary.com/hpiynhbhq/image/upload/v1517893246/agcfygtrikihc1mf5n3q.jpg) [Image Source](http://www.quickmeme.com/meme/3sgjzi) ___ ***By: @hanggggbeeee***